Wednesday, October 2, 2013

Step 1: Make A Choice

Since my separation/divorce I have struggled.  Yes, struggled.  Struggled emotionally, struggled spiritually, struggled financially and struggled physically.  I'd wake up praying to find hope when the sky in my life seemed grey everyday.  I always found a reason to smile although my heart ached for something tangible which would truly "change" our life.

When I stopped asking why things had to be the way the were I asked, "Will I ever get ahead?"  I was so close to depression and despair so many times.   I just chose not to go there.  I decided I would find a reason to smile amidst adversity.  And I smiled.  I smiled not knowing I was smiling.

For nearly three months my children and I lived in our minivan.  Yes!  I lived in a three door Chrysler Town and Country MiniVan with my 9, 8, 6, 3 and 6month old children.  In what appeared to be the worse situation.  When my concerns weren't just, "What will I make for dinner?"  but "How will I make dinner?"  "How will we shower today?"

The homeless journey taught me something profound.  Or at least I think is profound.  I learned my emotional being was homeless before my physical being.  I learned the relationship between what we experience emotionally and what we later manifest into our reality.  Just this bit of knowledge awaken me to begin again to re-envision my life.

The ex-husband was never coming back.  The dream of co-parenting in this season was unrealistic.  And I had to change my thoughts from seeing a broken family to seeing a whole family.  I had to chose to be thankful and find the "ah hah" moments in each phase of our transition.

I wish I could say I found the "life-changing" thing that would catapult us forward.  Like a lottery win or the birth of a multi-million dollar business which took off instantly.  That's not the case, BUT who says those things won't happen.

I am a strong believer in, "What we think about, we bring about."  I chose to live in the possibilities of impossible.  I also believe there is success in failure.  

Someway, somehow I have made the choice to not give up, though my situation appears a struggle constantly I KNOW, things are in fact better and they keep getting better and better!

In this blog I will share my journey.  The journey of a single mother of five choosing to not give up on her dreams.  Choosing to change the limitations of a single mother and surpass the box so I can stay home with my children and nurture them while at the same time earning a substantial income to provide for my family.  Can it be done?  Many, Many, Many say it can't be done.  They believe it's impossible.  AGAIN, I believe in the POSSIBILITIES of imPOSSIBLE.

I CHOSE TO CHANGE MY LIFE.

What choice will you make today?

Watch my journey.  See if a struggling single mother can actually make a turnaround out of poverty while giving her children the same loving care as a two parent household.

~ Angela

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